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Kwentuhan kita, is it ok?

I was around 3 years old.
It was one of the rare times na kasabay ko ang dad ko mag-lunch. He was mostly based abroad when I was growing up, kaya rare lang kami magkasama.
We were watching Eat Bulaga, and saw the segment of “Little Miss Philippines.”
Tinuro ko yung girl sa TV, who was doing a majorette routine, and told my dad, “gusto ko sumali dyan”.
Natawa ang dad ko, sabi nya, “para sa batang babae lang yan”
At that point, na-confuse ako. Alam ko girl ako eh, hindi boy!
Hahahaha

Sure na sure ako sa sarili ko na girl ako. Then my dad told me otherwise. Hahahaha!
So throughout my early childhood years, I ingrained in my mind na boy ako. Boy. B-O-Y.

But not until fifth grade. Tinukso ako ng group of boys na classmate ko. “Bakla! Bakla!”
And then, I confronted them in the gayest way possible. “Hindi ako bakla!”

Nagtawanan sila. Pero nag-apologize din after. Sabi nila, nagulat daw sila na nanlaban ako.
Somehow, I gained their trust. Naging magkakabarkada naman kami.

Ako usually yung tulay nila sa mga gusto nilang ligawan.
They were also very experimental during that time.
And whatever they wanted to do to a girl, they tried on me.
Usually, dapat mabababuyan ka eh. Pero I was enjoying it.

So at that time, I felt like a queen.
That “queenly” attitude carried on even when I transferred school in HS.

Usually, kinakantyawan ang mga bakla. Pero ako, they never did that to me. No catcalls.
People even elected me to a position in the student council.
When I left high school. Nagmuni-muni ako.
Why not magpakalalaki ako?
And so I did. Nagpakalalaki ako.

Yeah. I had girlfriends.
College na eh. Feeling ko dapat may transition.

Siguro, dahil nag-earn ko yung respect ng peers ko, yun yung ng-drive sa akin magpakalalaki.

Kinuha pa nga ako ng frat ng dad ko, pero I talked to him out of it.
Tutal member na yung kuya ko.
May isa din pang frat who wanted to recruit me, pero busy na ako that time and I had no commitment. They also didn’t pursue when I told them my dad and brother are members of another one.

Anyway, so “straight” nga ako nung college.
Or at least I tried.
Pero out of the confines of UP Diliman, I have been having anonymous gay encounters and one-night stands.
I started going gay “again” when I was 20. None of my friends had an idea.
It was only a few months before graduation when I came out.
Tanggap naman nila ako, fortunately.
So the moral of the story is…

Wala. Walang kapupulutang aral.